Introduction:
I just got back from the bars tonight. I go out pretty regularly and tonight reminded me of a very important lesson. You should invest in your dating future! First I want to say that…
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Now on to the lesson…
For this concept I will give two very broad examples and a very specific tip you can use the next time you go out.
Tonight I went out with 3 girls. Just me and 3 girls awesome right? Well not really I didn’t plan to go out at all until they called me and the 3 girls aren’t the best looking like 7’s. Which for me is below my standards. Either way I went out with 3 girls.
So did I hit on other girls? No! Do you know why? I was investing in my future. Not only did these three girls buy me drinks so they were all free, but I was so much fun not one of them had a bad time at any point of the night. They literally just sat with me at a table in the middle of a few bars talking the whole night. I had all 3 gleaming with fun the whole time.
By the time we left the bar they all 3 were starry eyed and in love. So what? They weren’t hot…
True but I gained so much. It was an investment. Not only do all 3 want to go out with me another night but they all love me now. I will have 3 wingman girls that I can use completely whether it is to start conversations with other girls for social proof or hell just to talk to in between sets. Not only that, but all 3 are in different sororities so I got invited to lunch at the sorority houses and well I don’t even want to mention what else was offered.
Sometimes it is much better to invest your time with girls you are not interested in, in order to reap the benefits in the long run. They may have hot friends, they may be pivots, wingmen( or wingwomen for that matter) for you, social proof, numerous other benefits. Not only that but if you are with girls one night at a bar and you are having the most fun in the entire bar, everyone else there notices too so you may build some reputation for a later date.
This is so true it is not even funny. I have thrown and been to some awesome parties. A lot of times there are multiple hot girls that hang out in one group. It often leads to the question which one to hit on? If they are not in the same group sometimes they are in different groups but would notice if you made out with another girl etc.
So what do you do? Invest in your future! I mean if you really want to hook up with one girl go for it. I often find though it is better to work the whole room and get every girl having a good time without showing interest in one. You are showing you are a social guy, you have all the girls having fun, and you don’t kill your chances with any of them. Will you lose some hook up possibilities? Yes probably.
You might not see them again or get their number or be able to meet up with them again but if you hooked up with another girl that night you would probably kill your chances with all of them anyway. At least if you are cool with them all you have a chance of converting one hook up into multiple dates and multiple relationships.
Sometimes you need to weigh your dating options and decide if you should invest in your future rather than cashing in now. Either that or wait to see which of the hot girls is the last to leave and hook up with her after the others are gone =P.
I love this and it is an original move I have come up with. So you roll to a bar with a few girls 2-3. When you go to a bar one of the first things most guys do is get a drink right? The girls are thinking the same thing. Ask them as you are walking in what kind of drinks they want and say I’ll buy the first one you get me on the next round.
Go to the bar with them and order drinks for all of you. Let them grab their own drinks and then go find a spot to chill with the girls or go talk to some sets. As you are talking with sets or chilling at the table. The girls you walked in with will be buying you a drink every now and then to pay you back.
If you are chilling at a table with 2-3 girls and they keep getting up and buying you drinks what do you think a girl watching that would think. You are a cool guy.
Better yet if you are talking to a set and a girl just walks up and hands you a drink. Seriously its like money in the bank that initial investment was nothing for the social interest it with generate. Now get out there in the field and get to work.
Just remember sometimes small investments now are worth the the long term payouts in the dating world. Who knew that dating, meeting, and approaching girls and women could take on such a business philosophy?