The first article I wrote about kissing tricks was such a success I decided that it was time for me to share the wealth of kissing knowledge again.
So if you are reading this I assume that you want to be a better kisser. Before I can give you the smooching secrets though, we must first decide what a good kisser is. A good kisser in my opinion boils down to 5 key elements.
Adaptability- If you want to be the best kisser in the world and work some real kissing magic, you have to be able to adapt. Ask them what they like or just be alert to what is going well and use that as your kissing guide.
Comfort- If you make them feel comfortable around you, the smooching will be a lot more enjoyable and genuine. What are some ways to increase comfort?
1. Go to a Safe and familiar environment.
2. Don’t be overly aggressive
3. Start slow and progress at a comfortable pace
4. Use eye contact and communication
Mental Connection- I don’t care how physically attracted you are to her or him but if there is no mental connection, you will not be the best kisser. Even if you have the dynamics down perfectly, you will never be able to compete with someone that has decent dynamics and an intense mental connection.
Physical Connection- On the same note as the mental connection is physical connection. If you are not physically attracted to someone, you will probably not even kiss them in the first place but if you do then it probably won’t be your best work. You should learn kissing secrets not have to keep the troll you kissed a secret.
Dynamics- The best kisser ever will have excellent dynamics. This will be explained more later but mainly you want to have good fundamentals.
Now on to the
The title of this is actually pretty misleading there is nothing really “tricky” about any of this.
The first key concept when making out is to maintain physical contact. Though this could be before or during kissing you want to build a level of comfort and be willing to touch each other. This doesn’t mean you are groping each other, though in some cases it might, but it mainly means that you should constantly be expressing your affection for the other person. Some ways to do this would be a hand placed on the hip, caressing, running your fingers through their hair, a massage, scratching (without hurting them) their back or whatever else you want to do that physically engages them.
Secondly after you initially start touching them you need to establish a deeper connection. This usually gets a bad reputation in movies as a guy saying some cheesy line but it is important. You can do this by a comment about how attractive they are, by using eye contact, or even by touching as described above.
Now is the time for the kissing magic. The way to be the best is to first start slow. Do not put your tongue all over their face, do not jam it in their mouth, and do not stick it in and out like you are a lizard (I’ve heard stories of even worse). Just pucker your lips a bit and lay a smooch on them, be gentle and hold it for a second. Too quick and it will seem meaningless, too long and it will be overdoing it. This will also establish more comfort for the future kisses to get a little steamier.
Tongue? What should I do with it? How much should I use? How far should I stick it out? This actually doesn’t have a right answer. That’s why adaptability is so important. The best kissing trick is just to figure out what they like and use that as a kissing guide. Some people like a lot of tongue. Some person may like it when you spin your tongue with hurricane force, others may be turned off when you barely use it at all. You just have to adapt to your partner. The general rule is to start slow and see what they respond too. You should usually start with just gentle rubbing your tongue along their bottom lip while kissing or gently make contact with the tip of their tongue.
*Note I know I am going into a ton of detail but I am assuming the person reading this could be a beginner and not only that but I would rather go into too much detail than not enough so you can actually learn something!*
From here you can escalate it and see if they respond usually spinning your tongue in circles around/ massaging theirs or just sporadic motion is done. This is the point when you can also start pulling out the tricks in your smooching magic bag. You could suck on their bottom lip gently or suck and then do a really gentle nibble on it. If they are using their tongue a lot you could create a vacuum around their tongue and bite down really gently (so you don’t hurt them) or use your tongue to touch theirs while you create the suction. You could pull up and give them a quick kiss on the tip of the nose, eskimo kiss them, kiss them on the cheek, rapid fire kiss them, or do basically anything I talked about in my previous Kissing Tricks Article.
Once you start kissing heavily you may want to start kissing other areas like the collar bone, neck, or even ear lobe. Remember to keep your hands moving as discussed in step 1! When kissing the neck you definitely want to create at least a little suction, I am not saying give them a hickey but a little is good and you probably will want to do little nibbles (again don’t hurt them) as you go.
If you repeat these steps over and over and continue communication throughout with the person you will soon find yourself as the best kisser ever!
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