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January 06, 2009

How To Contact A Girl On Facebook And Myspace

Posted in: Dating Tips,Facebook,meeting girls,Myspace,Online Dating,Picking Up Girls,Social Networking

This is one of the most basic and most important issues when dealing with Facebook and Myspace dating.  How do you contact a girl on Facebook and Myspace?  Now when you first set up a Facebook or Myspace profile I would definitely say you should make sure your profile at least looks decent and gives some information about yourself. 

If your profile is terrible then your success rate contacting any girls will be terrible as well.  OK so you have a profile set up and you found a girl you want to contact so now what do you say?

If you want a magic line that works with every girl it does not exist.  While there may be some very good cut and paste opening messages if I posted them here online they wouldn’t be very good for long especially since everyone would bomb myspace and facebook with them.  So instead of giving you a message to cut and paste I am going to give you the formula for a great opening message to contact a girl with.

EVERY TIME YOU MESSAGE A GIRL ON FACEBOOK AND MYSPACE FOR THE FIRST TIME YOUR MESSAGE SHOULD CONTAIN ALL 3 OF THE FOLLOWING PARTS:

1: HOW YOU FOUND HER PROFILE — The first thing a girl thinks when she sees your message is “How did this guy find my profile?”

You can answer this various ways and there isn’t a correct way just experiment around but an example would be if the girl on myspace or facebook was named Jenny you could say “I was looking for a friend of mine named Jenny and randomly saw your profile”  You should test different lines but you just need to answer the “how you found her profile” question.

2: WHY YOU ARE QUALIFIED TO CONTACT HER– Immediately after she asks herself how you found her profile, she will ask “Why did he send me a message?”

Your response should answer this as well.  It can be any reason but you NEED a reason for contacting her.  An example reason might be  “You seem like a cool person from your profile (at least your taste in music isn’t bad)”

3. A CALL TO ACTION —-  So now she knows how you found her profile, and why you contacted her, SO WHAT??!  why should she even talk to you?!  This is probably the most important part of the message.  YOU HAVE TO GIVE HER SOMETHING TO RESPOND TO.

This call to action can be a statement.  ex “You are trouble! I can tell!”

that statement gives her something to respond to because now she can message you and say “No I’m not trouble! or Yea I’m a bit naughty =P” or whatever.  Either way you want to give her something to respond to.  The above is just a sample of a statement you can make.

More commonly though the call to action is a Question.  A question is better for obvious reasons since you are directly giving her something to respond to.  An example of this could be “So are you cool enough to be my friend?”  It directly gives them something to respond to.  

Now if you put the 3 together you get a basic opening message.

“I was looking for a friend of mine named Jenny and randomly saw your profile.  You seem like a cool person! (at least your taste in music isn’t bad). So are you cool enough to be my friend?”

Now that is just a very basic example and probably not a good message to actually send out but it does cover all 3 bases.  You can include more in an opening message but you want at the bare minimum to include those 3 elements. 

One way some myspace and facebook dating advice gurus say you should do this is by doing a mistaken identity opener like.

“Jenny!  I can’t believe how much fun we had at X bar last night!  You totally were trying to get my drunk to take advantage of me!”

These openers though follow the exact same 3 part philosophy thats why they may work. 

The “I can’t believe how much fun we had at X bar” part tells her 1. how you found her and 2. why you are contacting her  (even though you are pretending to mistake her for someone else it still gives her a reason for you contacting her)  the final statement about taking advantage of you is actually a call to action.  Even though it is a statement saying you were totally trying to…  it is a statement that gives her something to respond to and talk about with.  I personally do not like these openers but some people swear by them so thought I should throw it out there.   Good luck and remember the 3 parts! :)

1. HOW YOU FOUND HER PROFILE

2. WHY YOU ARE QUALIFIED TO CONTACT HER

3. A CALL TO ACTION


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