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Date Demon Will Be In Vegas!!

I will be in Vegas somewhere between the 7-10th of November.  I will be attending the Blog World Expo and will be ready to have a blast.  The last Vegas trip I had was less than a year ago but that city is constantly changing.  If you have any advice for the trip or if you will be in the area and maybe want to meet up, for lunch, to wing, anything let me know.  You can reach me through the Contact Page or by leaving a comment.

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I made it a personal goal to meet one new woman every day. After about two weeks of doing that, I raised the number to two. It then gradually increased. How many women do I meet per day now? At a minimum four.

Four may not seem like a lot or even that difficult… If I met four new women per day, for one year, that would total to 1,460 women. Yes 4 x 365 is 1460. That is a lot of women.

I would recommend though you start out with the goal of just meeting one. This may sound easy in theory but it is incredibly difficult at first. Not the physical act of doing it, but the mental act of being able to walk up and start a conversation with someone you don’t know.

Here are six tips:

1. Always be on the move. It is like dating inertia, an object in motion will naturally continue in motion and an object at rest will naturally remain at rest. If you are walking around and you see a girl that you want to approach it is so much easier to just continue your walk to them than it is to stand up or start walking from your standing still spot over to them.

2. You don’t have to be perfect. Most women during the day are not like the girls at bars and clubs. They have not been hit on by other guys all day. They do not have their shields raised and defenses up. They will not be expecting a guy to walk up to them. This will not only make them as nervous or more nervous than you are but this also means your opening line doesn’t have to be that great. It doesn’t have to be perfect, it just has to be ok enough to get a conversation started.

3. Act comfortable. Even if you are not comfortable when approaching a girl act like it is just a normal event. If you are uncomfortable about it, she will be uncomfortable about it. If you act like it is completely normal she is 100 times more likely to really get into a conversation.

4. Be aware of time constraints. This is a huge difference between a daytime approach and a nighttime approach. When you walk up to a female at a bar, she planned to go out and be social for hours that night. That is what they are there to do! During the day, however, they have many other events planned. They could be on a bench waiting for a friend, on their way to a business meeting, or whatever. You should be aware of or become aware of their time situation and plan your conversation accordingly.

5. Don’t hinge on an outcome. Sometimes it just won’t work out! It could be a busy day for her. It could be a lousy day for her. It could be an anti-social day for her. The bottom line is you never know their situation completely so don’t take it to heart if a few girls are unreceptive to your approach. Not to mention there will probably be a number of times where as said before the woman has a time restraint like a business meeting or whatever event. Sometimes you also just might not be able to get her number or set up a date or whatever before she has to leave. The timing could just be off and you cannot control that. If you go in without an outcome in mind you won’t be disappointed no matter what happens and it is all a learning experience.

6. Fit time into your routine. Make time in your daily routine to meet women. If you are going grocery shopping plan to take an extra 10 minutes at the grocery store in case you happen to meet someone on aisle 7. If you are going to eat lunch, go to a store, or whatever, leave yourself a little time in case you see someone you want to approach.

It takes a lot of guts to walk up to a girl and start a conversation. It is just not easy mentally and that is the truth. Once you do it a few times though you will realize it really isn’t that bad.

Most guys when they see an attractive woman say “Wow! she is pretty hot,” or some variation of that and then they just stand there and watch. I am the kind of guy that now says “Wow! she is pretty hot and I am going over there to talk with her.”

I may get rejected, it may start well and fizzle out, or who knows I may even get her number or go on a date with her right there on the spot. The point is I never know until I actually try. I would rather try and not succeed with a woman I will never see again in my life, than to not try and always wonder what could have been. Not only that but when you do succeed, it is all worth it!!

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Peacocking is discussed quite a bit within the dating community. The term itself usually means dressing in a certain way to separate you from other men. Now while some take this to mean dressing outrageously, a lot of men believe peacocking should be done only slightly or to accentuate your own personality.

No matter what your definition of peacocking is I have realized something quite significant about this phenomenon. Naturals peacock as well. In the seduction community a “natural” is a guy that is as it would imply naturally good with women.

The term peacocking was originally coined by Mystery. This idea originated with him and is largely considered a tactic exclusive to the dating community insiders.

That is just not true though. Lately I have noticed a commonality between almost every guy that is a friend of mine and is a “natural.” Almost every guy I know that is a “natural” peacocks.

I really didn’t even realize it until I saw a friend of mine who is kind of a skater guy. He has always been extremely exceptional with women and as we were talking I noticed what he was wearing. He has a lip ring, was wearing a beanie cap, had a chain wallet extending from his pocket to a belt loop, was wearing a watch, about two rings, a necklace, blue jeans, skater shoes, a design printed t-shirt, and of course was carrying a skateboard. Just looking at him you wouldn’t really notice all that at once but women notice this stuff.

This is exactly what a guy would do if he was trying to peacock. He would wear a lot of accessories and interesting items. My friend was actually peacocking and expressing his personality and passions in the form of the skateboard, skater shoes, and just his overall look.

The look fits him and I am sure he attracts plenty of skater girls. Almost all of my other “natural” friends actually peacock as well in their own personal way.

This just reminds me how dead-on a lot of dating advice websites are. A lot of the methods are popular methods for a reason and that is they are based off of what actually works. You may not be a “natural” but you can read, learn the game, and emulate them. The best part is if you continue reading and continue growing yourself you can even surpass their game since most guys on their own will remain relatively stagnant.

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I am constantly asked by guys to look over their online profile and give them pointers to improve it. Every guy’s profile I have ever seen by request has needed a lot of serious work. I am not saying that there is one particular right way to set up your profile. It is YOUR PROFILE it should be about you. The way you portray yourself however, makes a lot of difference. If you turned in a resume to a company that was written in crayon on torn shreds of paper, you are not going to get hired.

In an online profile it is not necessarily what information you should present since you know who you are. It is how you display this information that is important. This display may range in the layout of your profile, your word choice, your applications, your profile music selection, the groups you join, or various other mediums.

Know Your Profile’s Role

The best overall guideline for setting up your profile is not to just make a random collage of yourself but rather to make your online profile with your goals in mind. If you want to use your facebook or myspace profile for business purposes, then by all means you should set up and fill in your information to better suit this purpose.

If you are setting up your profile to help with your social networking and in particular dating, however, then you need to set it up with certain dating goals in mind.

The First Thing You Have To Remember: Your Profile Is A Tool

I love it when I meet a new woman and she says she has myspace or facebook. Why you ask? My profiles work for me. They are like tools that add extra leverage in my dating life. Not only am I ok with them going to my online profiles I will encourage it because I have already set up my profiles to highlight the attractive qualities about myself.

Would you be more attracted to a girl that is having a bad hair day with no make up and some outfit she threw together at the last minute or one that has put on her best looking clothes, and fixed herself up to perfection? Your profile is your chance to display the very best of you at all times 24/7 and best of all without you having to physically be there.

Basic Tips:

Have good profile pictures. You don’t have to delete every picture you don’t look great in but you should probably get rid of the worst ones. I don’t care how funny that picture of you drunk hugging a trash can in your boxers is, it is not going to help you with anything.

Keep up to date with events. Especially on facebook, keep up to date and RSVP to local events. Let people know you are social and meet people going to the same events. If nothing else just know what is going on around where you live just so you are in the loop.

Show off your best qualities! If you are funny make some of your profile humorous. Artistic? Add the graffiti facebook application. Nerdy? Add the Jedi vs. Sith Application, Intellectual? Have some awesome quotes or favorite books.

Invite a following. Update your status pretty often, post a bulletin or two, change your profile picture, post on other walls on occasion, tell others about the events you are going to, share cool stuff on your profile. In other words give people an excuse to comment on and stay involved with your profile. I started a group on facebook when I lost my cell phone to get numbers from all my friends. The group description literally said that everyone should not join the group or leave immediately after they joined. The group was started about a year ago and there is currently about 80 members still in it. Not because it is an actual group of worth but because I have established a loyal following.

Leverage your connections. Facebook is all about connections. It is in fact a place for you to connect and maintain connections with others. Most people on facebook talk with their friends but very few actually use their friends as leverage to make other friends. If you see a cute girl, see which friends you have in common, if a friend posts a photo album with an attractive lady in it send her a message and say that you were looking through your friends photos and her picture was funny or whatever. You can meet a ton of girls just by leveraging the connections you already have without any involvement whatsoever on your friend’s part.

Well this is running a bit long and I could go on for quite a while… The bottom line is determine how you want your online profile to help you and build it around that purpose.

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I have been going out lately experimenting and constantly throwing new variables into the already complex world of social dynamics. One variable remains constant, having a good wingman can make a world of difference. I am comfortable enough with myself and good enough with social networking and working a room that I sometimes go out to bars or clubs completely alone. To be honest, I even do pretty well when I am alone.

That’s the thing though, I do “pretty well.” If you have a good wingman when you go out it makes a ton of difference. Even if you are comfortable and socially adaptable enough to handle almost every situation, having a good wingman if nothing else makes your life so much easier. Instead of having to pull an MVP play to isolate a girl away from her annoying friend, a good wingman can run interference and you don’t even have to worry about making that perfect maneuver.

Saturday night I went out with the best wingman and guy friend I have. We walked into the bar with a smile on our faces like we owned the place and started putting out the “fun” vibe. We talked to a random person or two on the way in and then went to a prime scouting location and started laughing about who knows what. It was really just a showing of our having a good timeness and not that we were actually saying anything of value to each other. He scanned one side of the room, I scanned the other, we counted the sets, decided which to start with, and we went to work.

Not only can a good wingman help you with interference and isolation but you can work off each other. You can also open sets twice as fast. You can start with one and he can open another and then you can merge the two or just tell them you will come back later and then you have a perfect doorway into two sets later. You can run accomplishment intros, where you basically brag about how awesome your friend is before he gets to the set, or you can even assist each other in a ton of different ways. If he is talking with a girl, you could say what a cute couple they make.

The bottom line is I don’t care how awesome of a PUA or guy you are, if you go out with a good wingman he will multiply your success with no extra effort.

Getting women with a good wingman is not the hard part, it is finding a good wingman for getting women that is actually more difficult.

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